Life Guru Number 2 for 2025

“I’m moving to Bangalore.”

“You don’t look committed to that.”

It was just one statement this man made and I knew that this was another one of those profound, enlightening moments that God was giving me from another Australian man-first one was on the plane with Brad flying from SFO to SYD.

Brad was my "New Years life guru" who pointed me in the right direction reminding me to figure out my priorities and arrange all my goals around those priorities. Anything that is not in line with what you want and need to do-remove it. Toxic people-get rid of them....Brad started the year off for me in an incredibly motivational and empowering way...

Brad could see that I was in a transitional state, which was obvious when we figured out I should have been on the plane to Bangalore and not the plane to Sydney.....that moment was profound and a good sign that I knew I should be setting those priorities for the New Year rather than running away on a plane. 

When I mentioned moving to India and starting my life...David could feel that I was not 100 percent committed to that decision.

When he said, "You don't look committed to that." 

I became quiet and initially just said, "How did you know that?" 

He responded with, "You seem unsure of your decision or lacking confidence with it." 

I knew that this man was going to be new Life guru or we had some serious conversations ahead of us...

He had a shirt on that said, “Nomad Symphony” and I thought that he was a musician, which he was a part of the Acapella group. The group were all present, but the three of us were involved in a deep conversation.  

Deb said she lived in Belligen her whole life since the 1980s and she can’t imagine living anywhere else.

On the Flip side- she said she never thought she would be that person to stay in the suburbs, but she ended up staying. She felt like that choice was going against her interest to explore, be free, and move around. 

The idea of "seeking movement" not "seeking change." You do not have to be changing your location geographically, but you are just craving "movement." 

It was not about committment rather it was about feeling comfortable in new surrounding....this incredible conversation recorded by voice message....the depth and layers that you can explore with strangers is just incredible. 

I crave family, support, and community although I keep running in the opposite direction. I am in envy of those who have family support and are staying in one place building a life, but I do not have their ability to fully commit and I stray from place to place in ways that provide comfort rather than challenge me to give my time, dedication, heart, and passion to one place. 

People are getting temporary snap shots into my strengths in character, but they are not peeling the onion and getting into the depth of my layers. I will not allow people to pass a certain point of basic rapport and new friendship into a real home, a place I can grow, and explore job opportunity. 

Boy was I can getting a learning lesson in what my resolutions should be for 2025 and I was thinking AGAIN that this trip was just not in the cards for me as I was just craving movement to a new location and not changing my past behaviors. 

David and I had to table the conversation for another time. He was way too interesting to just say, “Thanks for the conversation, good night.” He had been under the treatment of a psychotherapist doing hallucinogen therapy inducing psychosis and he was sharing how this experience shaped his current behavior and life goals.   I felt like I could share so much and learn from this man. I felt comfortable and seeking his advice as a friend or even like a parent. 

We connected so I asked for his number and we were messaging each other with plans to meet for coffee or a hike….

It is those strangers we meet in the night that give us this greater awareness into who we are and who we need to be.....